I guess it could start by my learning how to say no....or how to focus, since starting this I have checked Facebook, e-mail, the news, looked at shoes online, etc. etc....it's like the brain I used to have can't work anymore...Maybe I need more coffee, no probably less.
What I need is to figure out this new life. Not just suburbia, that is figuring itself out, I can get to the store without a map, I am even learning these big curvy streets with multiple names. I mean a mom of school aged kids, a home owner, myself. I need to figure out how to get everything done around the house, meet my volunteer commitments, my commitment to myself as well as entertaining my children. You know find balance.
I think it starts with letting go. I could clean the apartment in 2 hours flat, the house, not so much, and it's not even that big. There is more to do. I go down to change the laundry, see a box that hasn't been unpacked or a something needs to be moved, cleaned up, that leads me to seeing something else, which leads to something else and before I know it 2 hours are gone and all I “finished” is one load of laundry. As a home owner (an old home owner) the to do list is always growing faster than I can keep up with it, I need to accept that and move on.
I also need to get over the guilt of saying no...I can't do it all, even if I wanted to. If I volunteer to help with everything my kids are in instead of just being than I have to neglect the kids to find the time to do it...no one wins, well maybe the organization wins, but I am not indebted to them, no matter how much I think I am. I am indebted to my children so I need to figure out how to make things work best for them, and me, and no one else.
I honestly don't know how you working moms do it. I now know I could never go to work, I am not organized enough. I can't handle all we have to do now and I don't know how I would handle work too. Maybe that's it though, you are as organized as you need to be? I could be more organized and streamlined and get it “all done” but than some of the funner things...Facebook, soaps, tickle parties with my kids would have to disappear.
So I need to lower my expectations and realize no one else knows how much I had planned to do or what I intended to do, so I'm not really failing anyone. I guess I need ti realize that, accept that and stop apologizing.
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