Thursday, January 28, 2010

Parenting advice I actually listened to

My mom is not one to dole out the motherly advice or cliches. However she did say one thing to me, that is probably one of the smartest things she ever said to me and I have passed it on to more than one friend:

If you wait until you have enough money, time, things, to have a child you will never have a child because you will never have enough. The situation will never be perfect. You either want to be a mom or you want to be perfect.

It's true. We didn't wait and we have never been happier. It may have taken us longer than our friends to buy a house. We may not have as nice of stuff as everyone else. But we have 2.5 awesome kids and we have never been happier.

On that same line of thought, no fewer than 4 people have said the following to me:

Going from 1 to 2 is way harder than when you add the third (or 4th or 5th).

I've heard it from moms of 4, 5 and 6 and from a dad of 4 and grandpa of 8 who said it this way:

One is One, and 2 is ten. So anything after 2 doesn't raise the chaos, just the volume.

Let's hope they all ring true, because baby number 3 is coming in July!

* This has been my answer to prompt #1 "Share a piece of great advice you've received from someone who knows stuff..." You can join in Mama Kat's fun here.


Amanda said...

My boyfriends dad always says that more than 2 is chaos and his other awesome parenting advice for boys: 1 boy alone has 1 brain, but 2 boys together have half a brain!

Kyrsten said...

Really like this advice. Will pass it over to my hubby :-)

-stopping by from Mama Kat-

WeaselMomma said...

That is some wonderful advice and as a mom of 6, I couldn't agree more. I will also say that once you are outnumbered, 3 or 13 doesn't matter.

Linzi said...

I love "You either want to be a mom or you want to be perfect." I completely agree and it really takes the pressure off. I think I'm going to make it my mantra. :)