Tuesday, January 3, 2012

A Child is Born {Just Write}

Today my heart is heavy and aches. 

It aches for a friend, for all my sisters in grief.

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Know this truth sisters, despite what the world tells you. Despite it not being “right” to discuss it, or “too soon” to tell, YOU are a mother. YOUR child matters. If I do nothing else for the rest of my life it will be to stand on a mountain and shout out their names.

They are still your child, my child His child. They are loved by you, by me, by Him

We may all sit in this uncomfortable skin of not having born our children into our arms but know that you have born them into His arms and he will hold them in His love until you can be with them.

I imagine a softly lit nursery, warm and inviting. Filled with the grandmas who didn’t get to rock their grand babies on earth. Holding those babies, loving on them, caring for them. Getting a chance to be the great grandma they missed out being on Earth. My baby, your baby being loved and doted on in only a way that a grandma can.

My heart aches, for the babyless mothers for the world doesn’t see the pain and the scars that we carry with us. They tell us to get over it and move on, or worse, it was meant to be, that we are lucky it happened this way. 

There is no luck in loosing a child. No matter how “early” or late.

Your child was born, into His arms and not yours and nothing can make that pain go away. Words do not heal the broken heart of a babyless mother, they are only there to soak up the tears as she picks up the pieces of her heart and tries to mend it back together again. 

*Friends I am sorry for the annoying "jump" and partial feed. I am dealing with someone stealing all the content of my feed so to I have to do this temporarily while I try to get a person of il-repute in Thailand to stop stealing my stuff. 


Granny Kate said...

Thank you so much for this post. If your times are right, you were writing this at just about the time we were giving our baby into the arms of Jesus at 9 wks gestation. A friend sent me the link to this post, hoping it would bless me, and it has. I like to think of my own grandparents caring for about half a dozen of their great-grandchildren who were born into His arms. I like to think of my in-laws, who themselves passed on before they got to enjoy all their grandchildren. Now they have two or three with them.

Lucy The Valiant said...

Oh, I am crying so much right now. You've painted such a beautiful picture.

Galit Breen said...

I'm so very sorry.

y heart is with you and your's.

Stephanie Wilson she/her @babysteph said...

A dear friend lost her baby last week. Breaks my heart.


Christa said...

This is lovely, thank you.

Gillie said...

I miscarried when my son was in preschool. A few years later after his great-grandmother died he said to me "I bet Great-Grandma C is rocking our baby right now."

Robin said...

what a comforting picture of grandma's and babies in heaven. Oh how that melted my heart.

Jen said...

I heart this beautiful image. Thanks for this.


jubilee said...

*sigh* I have two babies in Heaven. And three grandparents in Heaven.

Alita said...

So true.

Also, this is my favorite piece you have ever written (or since I've started reading your blog a long while back)

It is vulnerable. It is warm. It is supportive. And it is so very "you"


Unknown said...

This is so beautiful and rings so true to me. Immediately after her grandmother (my MIL) passed away, my step daughter turned to me and said, now there is someone in Heaven to rock my two peanuts.

gianna said...

I love how you said, mamas who have lost babies ARE mamas. That is so true. God gave them a short moment to be a mama and NOBODY can take that away. Why their babies were not born into their arms, we will never understand on this earth, but they are STILL special mamas!

christine said...

I lost a baby last summer very early on in the pregnancy. But it still hurt. It still hurts now. This post touches my heart and soul. Thank you for your words.

Lenae said...

Tears, Melissa. This seized my heart so strongly... words aren't adequate.

Stephanie said...

This is so so beautiful. Our neighbors lost their sweet little boy after birth. He lived for just over an hour and I can only imagine how hard this Christmas was for her. I'm going to share this post with her and tell her I continue praying for her. What a beautiful picture you created with your words.

Hyacynth said...

I needed that image. Of the grandmother in heaven rocking my babies. Your baby boy. All of the babies. I needed that.
{Thank you. <3}