Thursday, March 29, 2012

Permission {Bigger Picture Moments}

Welcome to Bigger Picture Moments! Taking time to revel in the simple moments that make up the bigger picture of our life!
Sorry for the delay! The linky is open at the end! 

All over my house I have words.

Snippets of stories, ideas, titles. I have pieces started on my computer, on scraps of paper, in journals. My day planner holds at least two blog posts, I have a book started in a journal.

Yet stealing time away to write feels selfish and frivolous.

I manage to come up with a million other things I need to do right. This. Moment.

I still have a hard time accepting this new identity, new title as writer. I suffer from what my mentor calls paralysis of perfection.

He has confidence in me. As hard as it is to juggle the demands of the kids (on spring break yo!) and a house and hobbies, he pushes me, believes in me.

He got me a special edition, leather bound Elements of Style for my birthday. He believes that one day my words will matter.


On Sunday Hyacnth and I went to hear Anne Lamott speak. I have not read her books, though they have been on my list for a very long time. I heard she was amazing and every writer that writes from the heart needs to read her. So despite it being an absolutely gorgeous day outside we were not going to miss it.

Oh I am so glad we didn’t.

Hyacynth described her speaking as “passionate but peaceful” and that is spot on. She was like the sports coach of writers repeatedly pushing us “to just do it”. Some of my favorite take aways:

if you don’t start now, you won’t start later” There’s no point in saying I will start on Monday, if you’re not ready to start right this minute you will never take the time to be ready and to start.

“I have never written a good first draft. Ever.”

Deep exhale, and the paralysis starts to leave....she has written 15 books and her first drafts were terrible?

You have to give yourself permission. Like you would a good friend...” If you knew a friend had a talent, a desire you would push them, say you have to do this. You need to do that for yourself, or find a friend that will do it for you and as Anne said “call her every morning until you believe it yourself”


So I’m taking his confidence in me and Anne’s words and I’m giving myself permission.

Permission to write.

Permission to fail.

Permission to be bad, and ugly, and in need of edits.

Permission to pursue a dream.

Permission to succeed.


Simply giving myself permission, that's my Simple Moment, Bigger Picture this week. What's Yours

Harness the moment. Write it down, share a picture, a poem or prose. However YOU need to process and remember the moment. All moments big and small.

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Ginny Marie said...

Amazing that you were able to meet Anne Lamott! I've read one of her books. She sounds very inspirational!

May said...

There is such wisdom in these words. Who among us would not encourage wholeheartedly any of our friends who had a dream? But ourselves??? That seems harder for some reason.

Adrienne said...

Wow - so inspiring. I will come back to this. I love the part about pushing a good friend to succeed...and I feel people who love me encouraging me to write. Not the same as pushing myself, though! I hear the word permission and like that too!

Liz P said...

Great post! I think I'm going to bookmark it for when I'm feeling exactly the same way you do.

And I need to her books as well. It sounds like my style is similar to hers.


Unknown said...

My love you don't need permission to be already are. ROCK YOUR WRITING BABE...You're the best! And I must inspiration too. :-)

Moments and Impressions said...

Love this - treating ourselves like we would a good friend. Easy to say - but harder to do. Great advice.

Jade @ Tasting Grace said...

Brava!! :)