They are tricky things. You can't just have them you need to do them.
I'm really good at thinking them. I'm only okay at starting them and I am not good at finishing them. (You should see my craft area!)
It's mostly a paralysis of perfection. I don't want to do something, put it out there, if it's not just right.
But art, people, are flawed and there is beauty in the flaws. I want to embrace the flaws, see the beauty and potential in it all.
My husband said to me this week "You're going to be famous you know, and I don't mean for arrest warrants and stuff". I love the confidence he has in me. It's the kind of confidence I have in my children but rarely afford myself.
I'm trying to step out of my perfection paralysis and just try, have confidence in me. Try new things, chase down new dreams, put myself out there and just see where it takes me. You never where you will land if you don't take that first step.
Simply taking that first step, that's my Simple Moment, Bigger Picture this week. What's yours?
Grab your moment, write it down and cherish it!
Link up yours at This Heavenly Life this week
Try to visit the other participants and encourage each other in this journey we call life.
Do you have confidence in your art or is the first step the hardest for you too?
Paralysis of perfection....I know this too well. And every once in a while I see it in my kids. I cringe and wish there were some things I hadn't passed on.
Ah yes, I can relate all too well. But we shall overcome shan't we? Great words from Pinterest by the way. Love that site!
Love this. Love your husband's response.
I've been struggling with some of the same feelings. I love that you're developing your self-confidence though. And I love your husband's confidence in you, too. That's so sweet!
"Paralysis of perfection" - such a perfectly coined phrase! And I think it's something almost all of us wrestle with.
Reading what you write about needing confidence in yourself...I got struck with a thought. It seems like a bit of a chicken or the egg thing, doesn't it? Getting out there and doing stuff well helps us gain confidence....but we need confidence to get out there and try in the first place, right? So that made me wonder if maybe being self-confidence is something that has to be EARNED, for us ourselves, in our own minds. Just like others have to earn our respect, we have to earn our own respect for ourselves. Does that make sense? Sorry if this is a jumble, or patently obvious to everyone but me....
But nobody is perfect at the get-go. We all have to practice to get good. Malcolm Gladwell wrote about geniuses and serious talents, and none of them got good at their chosen field without putting in 10,000 hours of work. That's what separated the great from the not-so-great: putting in the work. Ira Glass's quote that I posted a few weeks ago talks about much the same thing. So what if we created a paradigm shift in our minds: that what we do is PRACTICE. Then whatever we do, well or fail, we can just say, "I'm practicing." Would that give us the confidence to try?
Ok. I'm done ruminating. Publicly anyway. :) You've given me something to think about!
Big Dreams take a big heart and BIG talent, which you have.
Just keep plugging away, Mel.
I don't know why, but your husband's comment is what sticks with me from this... there's something about that belief, that confidence, that proves magical for the soul... gives you wings and propels you forward, you know?
And in case you weren't sure of it, you know how much I believe in you, and once again -- so proud and excited for LTYM!
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