Thursday, July 12, 2012

Flowers in her hair {Bigger Picture Moments}

Welcome to Bigger Picture Moments! Taking time to revel in the simple moments that make up the bigger picture of our life!
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She knew she was in the wrong. You could tell by they way she closed her hand when I first came out so I couldn’t see it, but I did. The handful of bachelor button flower heads in her hand. Our very dry summer has been rough on our garden but these sprung up early and fast and we have been able to keep them at least half alive with some watering.

Fingers were pointed.

He did it!

No! She told me to!

I didn’t get mad. I didn’t snap. I didn’t scold. I gently reminded them that we can’t be picking the flowers or we wouldn’t have any to look at.

Can you put them in my hair?” she asks me.



They were small, just the heads. Her thin hair was showing that it had been a long day spent running outside, sweaty, stringy. There wasn’t enough stem to stick behind her ears. At that moment her very crabby baby sister was climbing all over me and the cement stairs, she had already fallen and hit her head and was generally a wreck (it was almost dinner time). My head wanted to say no, it won’t work and be done with it.

Sure honey, but I will have to braid it, can you go get a brush and rubber bands?”

I love braiding her hair. My mom didn’t know how to braid and she kept her hair and all of us girls hair short. I taught myself how to braid on my sisters Cabbage Patch Kid Cornsilk hair doll. I love being able to braid her hair. I don’t get to do it often because she doesn’t like sitting still, doesn’t like the pulling and prefers to keep her hair in a short bob.

We sat on the front steps and I watched my oldest care for the youngest as I sat and braided my middle child's hair and I thought this is what I was meant to do. It’s hard. It’s exhausting. I question my decisions and actions every single day. I see her rolling her eyes and shaking her head at me full of attitude earlier, but now, this moment, it wipes it out.

With three girls in a small house growing up was loud with lots of emotions and yelling. My husband reminded me today that my future doesn’t have to include that. My past doens’t have to dictate my present, I can do things different.

So today I did. I didn’t scold. I didn’t say no.

And she wore flowers in her hair and I carried her beauty in my heart.


Simply saying yes, that's my Simple Moment, Bigger Picture this week. What's Yours?

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Jade @ Tasting Grace said...

Oh what sweetness! The words, and the sentiment captured. Love it!

Lucy The Valiant said...

Oh, I love this. It's a Yes that I bet she remembers forever!

May said...

Such beauty in this moment. The visual beauty of a pretty little girl with flowers in her hair plus the beauty of the shared, loving moment between mother and child. A treasure.

Adrienne said...

There is a profound truth in this simple moment of connection. That she got to wear the pretty flowers and not get in trouble for picking them, is a piece of God's grace and goodness that will be etched into her heart forever. I love this!

Corinne Cunningham said...

My mom always kept my hair short as well... but oh how I wanted braids!! I'm anxious for Paige's hair to get a little longer... though I know I could do it now if she'd just sit still and let me ;)
Those flowers are beautiful in her hair!

Stephanie said...

I love this - especially the part about the past not defining our future. So true!

Melisa Wells said...

Great post, Melissa. It's always great to choose your battles and realize there's lots of beauty in saying yes when you can. :)

Kim said...

It's so nice when a long, hard day can be salvaged by a beautiful moment where everything falls into place.

Toni said...

Doesn't it feel good to say "yes?" I think, as mothers, we HAVE to say "no" so much that it almost becomes a first reaction. Because it's almost a habit, saying yes takes a conscious effort...and sometimes the energy is just not there. LOL I'm glad you said yes.

Kristi@Creative Connections for Kids said...

What a precious moment to remember and share!

liveyourlovoutloud said...

It is so valuable to remember to enjoy the small times. What a beautiful way to live them out. I needed this.

Lisa Noel said...

very sweet!!

Brandie said...

Love. There is something magical about braiding my daughter's hair for me. The oldest is too old. I miss it. She LOVED to get her hair braided. Such sweet memories. said...

This was just lovely. both the writing and the experience.

Michelle said...

That's gorgeous, Melissa. I love that you took the time, and your girls will be better for it because that's how you live. Love the look of the flowers!

Unknown said...

Oh yes I can relate to those moments, but it feels so good to just take a deep breath let the stress go and let love flow into our crazy lives. And thank you too for reminding me of when my dad used to braid my hair when I was little. It made me feel like a queen. :-)

Amanda said...

What a beautiful sentiment. I smiled when I saw this because my sister and I begged my mom to let us grow our hair and have it done pretty when we were little. She never let us because she didn't know how to fix it. Now we're both adults (with 4 boys between us) and both of us have long long hair!