Becoming parents can be really hard on a marriage. Life can easily get busy and get in the way of taking the time you need to nourish your relationship and just plain have fun. With the older kids in school full day now our evenings go something like this:
- walk in the door in an explosion of stuff all over the dinning room
- noise, noise, LOUD noise as everyone clamors for something, tells something asks for something
- mad rush to get dinner on the table and straighten up above dinning room explosion
- "oh, hi honey your here to?", quick peck
- dinner - inhaled in between requests for milk, a knife, more, less, complaints, dropped utensils, please stop talking
- baths, reading, cuddling, bed
- bed again
- bed again
- PLEASE STAY IN BED
- Hi honey how was your day?
- collapse into bed
We haven’t even started activities yet, those start next week. So yeah, sometimes it can feel like my husband is just a co-worker who I pass through the hallway repeatedly without ever getting to say more than a word as we pass by.
Phil is our marriage rescuer. He’s cheaper than a marriage counselor (in this case free) and he’s a little bit of fun and silly and a way to communicate with each other when we’re not physically able to sit down and talk.
Phil is a Squinky (is it still Squinkies, even if there is only one)? They are this uber-popular toy that is you have a little girl between 5-7 you probably have them underfoot. Or if you’re my daughter you have none because you have the meanest mommy in the world. See we have a toddler who at 18 months still puts everything in her mouth. In the last week I have fished out rocks, dirt, old food, toys, toys, barbies shoes, and more rocks. The last thing I need is a super small toy.
So when Phil came home in a bag of hand me downs from a friend I gave it to my husband and said “make this disappear”. I found him the next morning on the windowsill, he was apparently too cute to throw away. The next day he was under my coffee mug. At this point I coulnd’t help but laugh and I had to get in on the game.
So know Phil ( short for Philbert) gets moved around daily for the other to find. It’s just a teeny tiny little bit of fun in a chaotic day that makes us stop, smile and think of the other one.
If you’re on Instagram you can follow his adventures with the hashtag #Philsquink
Simply keeping marriage fun, that's my Simple Moment, Bigger Picture this week. What's Yours
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